thank you for your replys,
i asked my stepmum if he has a favourite flower and she said she didnt know, its not the sort of thing i wanted to ask him, and i couldnt now anyway, it wouldnt make any sense to him, i have never been fond of cushoins or pillows but i like the idea of a gardeny feel, he had a lovely garden until recently when he didnt have time to tend to it anymore, my sister and i have already decided on a loose dad frame, and its what we both wanted to do, i know my stepmum wants her heart red and white, but i love the gardeny looking stuff, its so free and it always looks nice

i think my colours are going to be deep reds and blues, cos i think they look lovely, thank you for all your ideas it really is appreciated

lisa